Why I Want My Man Like My Food

Sex Sells; in the media, music, Hollywood and all facets of our culture. Through this propaganda we have bought into the idea that sex sells happiness. It is advertised as the ultimate indulgence with no consequences. Similar to the American diet this perspective is highly processed. It is high in pleasure and low in nutritional significant. (Wait..huh?) Don’t worry I’ll explain.

The glorification of sex is simply societal lust. All species have the innate desire to procreate to prolong their survival. To promote this natural and healthy process we feel sexual desire. This desire is simply the side effect of our biological intuition to initiate this self-preservation. By failing to make this connection between sexual desire and procreation we have stripped the essence and significance of sexual intimacy to that of lust. Lust is the desire of sexual pleasure devoid of value. By seeking pleasure without principle we may be attracting more pain than pleasure.

Our addiction to lust is similar to our addiction to processed foods. They both lack the complete nutritional value our bodies crave to survive. (Still confused)? Let’s break this concept down. Sugar is one of the most processed foods in the American diet. How can it be so lethal and addictive when it is derived from the nutrient-dense fruit? The significance is how our bodies processes the two.

Whole fruits are high in sugar but also rich in many other nutrients essential to our bodies. When we consume whole fruit our bodies takes time to slowly release the perfect amount of energy our body needs to thrive. It is our bodies natural way of maintaining equilibrium. Therefore, the gratification our body feels is balanced. The fruit is the whole package.

Contrarily, sugar causes a dramatic and immediate spike in energy giving us a hyper sense of satisfaction. Because sugar is derived from its natural state there is no substance accompanied with it to slow this process down. Therefore, our bodies become addicted to this rapid strike of instant gratification that is both unnatural and unrealistic for the body to maintain. Thus, lust like sugar have been derived from its natural state which in turn both hinders and alter its natural functionality.

In our bodies Lust functions similar to the sugar derived from the fruit. The difference is our bodies cannot distinguish the different between a lustful fling and a lifetime partner. Therefore, the love and passion that should be reserved for nest building is incorrectly exerted onto the wrong partner who is uninterested and uncommitted to a partnership. This state of denial encourages complacency because either you are building or you are stagnant. We have to be selective about who we give this very sacred energy to because not everyone deserves this level of trust and energy from us.

Now I know popular culture has stigmatized the emotional connection between the male and female but it is a natural and vital part of the survival of most species. Which is why we really have little choice in ‘catching feelings’. Oxytocin is a powerful hormone linked to building trust and bonds within relationships. It is no surprise that it is released in abundance during our most intimate moments. Both men and women release this chemical when their body reaches a orgasm. It is also released by mothers during childbirth and breastfeeding; it creates the most natural and secure bond between mother and child. (Just like the whole fruit naturally balances the body). This chemical is so potent that it plays a very important role in the protection of our off-spring. Through its release we are compelled to sacrifice and endure struggle for the protection and survival of those we share this special connection with. By releasing these emotions a special bond is created to encourage survivalism through perseverance and sacrifice that we are willing to take to protect our off-spring. Therefore, there is nothing unnatural about the creation of intimate connections. The social stigma attached to sexual bondage is born out of our societies obsession with lust and is both highly processed and unnatural.

I now understand that sex with no substance is equivalent to food with no nutrients. We really are only what we consume. If we want to thrive in life we have to give our body what it needs. Anything that hinders this ability is toxic. In this sense, lust is synonymous to the empty calories found in processed foods. They are both highly addictive and unnatural when extracted from its organic origins. Why should you settle for just the sugar when you deserve the whole fruit?